And the man and his wife were both naked and were not embarrassed or ashamed in each other’s presence. – Genesis 2:25

Surely, God blessed man and woman, husband and wife since the beginning of creation the pleasure of intimacy through sexually responding to each other, in direct physical contact, and pleasure of one another. To give oneself intimately-passionate as an expression of love and life, to reciprocate, and the beautiful masterpiece of being chosen and acceptance. God blessed sexual intimacy to be enjoyed, fruitful, and for reproduction in the divine context of a holy marriage. It is a gift, it is pleasurable, it is enjoyable, it is holy, it is divine and it is sacred for marriage.

Can you have sex outside marriage?
I think sexual beings such as you and myself subconciously look at this question this way, “Do I want to have sex even outside of marriage and even outside of my marriage?” That question seems more appropriate and thought provoking because it is a matter of the heart. What you’ve decided in your heart, what you’ve identified to be good for you, that is what you will desire. The will of man is powerful and can achieve anything the mind and heart agreed upon to have. The topic of nakedness and unashamed is addressed in part in physical and sexual intimacy, but it is not the wholeness of it.

…naked and were not embarrassed or ashamed!

The desire for true intimacy is the message of being naked and unashamed which is fulfilled not solely in physical contact nor it should start with it and in the context of sexual intercourse. Physical and sexual attraction should only be a natural response due to the depth of the intimacy of two spirit, heart and soul connecting and engaging in unity to become one. Granted even prior to that, attraction and the desire to respond physically and to have sexual contact can arrise, but it can certainly be controled by two opposite sexual being who honors and value each other outside of their passion. In agreement, they both also honor and value marriage.

Seeing each other righteously before engaging in intimacy in spirit, heart, and soul is an important decision that each individual has to make before or at the start of a friendship. This gives the ability to control the human passion which is only possible by the practice and exercise of self control which is the fruit of Holy Spirit (Galation 5:22-23).

God created sex as a gift to sexual beings who have decided to become one and commit self to one another in friendship, marriage, and service. Jesus has given believers today with greater gift to help us control our passion when it comes to our sexual desires while not in marriage and especially outside of marriage (Luke 11:13). It is the gift of union with Holy Spirit who produces patience and self-control in us.

Now upon receiving the gift of Holy Spirit in spiritual and eternal union, you can ask yourself this question again,
“Do I want to have sex even outside of marriage and even outside of my marriage?”

At the core of the human heart and soul is a deep desire and longing for intimacy and ultimately to be known. Sexual intimacy apart from deep intimate friendship and outside of the context of marriage is empty. Yes it will release biological neurons and natural chemicals in the brain that is euphoric and addicting, but it is not lasting without it having healthy and wholy deep roots which are embedded in an intimate friendship and in the context of a holy marriage.

God created you and I as whole individuals. I’m not a half person or half hearted individual journeying through life in search of my other half to complete me. God as Jesus revealed in the bible is a good Father who’s gifted us with pleasurable gifts to enjoy in the context of holiness “sacred”. Which mean it is set apart for enjoyment with certain boundaries ultimately to keep you whole. If you feel broken today, it maybe a good time to address that area of your heart. A place of reflection and to invite Holy Spirit in your life. God can restore you today through an intimate relationship with Christ. Who came to redeem humanity back to wholeness and restore our relationship back to being in intimacy with God where there is no perceived separation in the mind. Where our deepest heart desire for intimacy and our soul longing to be naked and unashamed is first fulfilled and satisfied in God. A foundation that truly allows you to build your house upon a rock that is unshakable!

We are sexual beings who desire intimacy and to be fully known in our sexuality!